“People see what they want to see and what people want to see never has anything to do with the truth.” -- Roberto Bolano
Most of us are struggling for maintaining good relationship with family members, colleagues, subordinates and with bosses in work environment. One of the reasons could be the perception we have formed about others and approaching them with the same perception forever.But the reality may be opposite to the perception.
For example, we might have experienced a few irritable incidences with the boss and we have framed the perception that the boss is always “short tempered.” With the same frame of mind, we approach and response to him, but in reality, we may miss his other good qualities such as his grasping ability, communication skill, caring about people, business acumen etc..In this process, our relationship quality is strained.
Similarly, we may approach our children as “Average” based on their academic performance, but we may miss to notice their other qualities such as memory, power, mingling with others, taking things easy and so on.The point is if we frame some perception about people and approach, our quality of relationship will be to the extent of perception. If we are a little bit flexible and start looking other qualities, the relationship quality may improve.
Practicing this in real life seems to be difficult, but possible with awareness .Accept the people as such, approach them with flexible mind; you attract good things in life!