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Showing posts with label Communication. Show all posts

Saturday 29 July 2023

Summarizing - Art of developing influence

 Summarizing - Art of developing influence 

(Execution Excellence -"Ability to get things done" Series)
 

As we have discussed the art of influencing for the last 14 weeks, let us summarise the key learnings.
 
  • While we go up the career ladder, beyond a certain point, we need to get things done beyond our functional boundary, and positional power alone will not help. We need to develop influencing skills to get things done.
  •  We need to be aware of our dominant influencing style (logical, commanding, balancing, or engaging) and be mindful of other person's influencing styles. We need to modify depending on the context and other people's styles. Most workplace problem is due to inflexibility in influencing style.No single style will help in all situations. It is more about awareness. 
  • We can see some patterns in highly influencing people in the workplace. Two things we can learn from them. One is their mindset or thinking pattern, and the other is their behavior or practices to influence others.
Regarding mindset
 
  • They operate with a WIN-WIN philosophy and always look at maximizing their impact and others in every interaction.
  • They will always look at the position with pride and make their body language and tone positive, which helps to influence others easily.
  • They have a high level of clarity of what they want in each interaction/task and operate an outcome-based thinking process.
Regarding practices
  • They put their continuous effort into building their credibility by developing expertise or improving relationships with others.
  • They display respect for others by keenly listening
  • They empower others by outlining the task and not indulging in micro-management, however available when the situation is required for the people
  • They are good at communication, and they are more expressive while explaining the need for the task
  • They will always look for fixing the process than people.
  • They will develop charisma by being authentic in their domain.
 
To summarise, developing the art of influencing takes time and effort. However, the payoff will be high for any professional's growth, and everyone has to invest in it.
 
Have a great week ahead!

Purposeful communication to get things done

 Purposeful communication to get things done 

(Execution Excellence -"Ability to get things done" Series)
 
We discussed some of the mindsets of highly influential people in the workplace to get things done. We mentioned win-win, how they look at work, and clarity of what they need.

Regarding practices, effective people work on themselves to build their credibility through relationships and expertise. The second practice is giving others their time, energy, and knowledge. The third practice is displaying respect by listening. The fourth practice is empowering others.

The next practice the people do is "Effective communication."
 
Effective communication and its relevance:
 
We often discussed the importance of effective communication in this forum for professional growth. From a perspective of influencing and getting things done, communication is one of the critical elements.

Generally, we like people who give clear instructions on what to do than those who do not have clarity in expectation and cannot articulate. This will have a direct impact on the ability to get things done.
One powerful practice that highly influence people do use in their communication process is purposeful communication.

What is purposeful communication?

It is all about communicating with others by outlining the purpose of the task as much as possible than merely saying what you want.
 
For example, you may want to know which material has been consumed more in the last three years to reduce costs.
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You have two options to communicate to your team to get the details.
 
Option1:
 
"I want consumption data of material for the last three years."
 
Option 2:

 "I want to understand which material is consumed more in the last three years to look for consumption reduction to reduce cost."
 
In both options, you communicate the same. However, in option 2, you elaborate on the purpose, which will give more clarity to team members, and in high probability, they will filter the data with more insights.

The reason is that people like reasoning, and it will give clarity. When clarity is given, the output's speed or quality will be more than in the case of providing simple instruction.
 

When we practice this purposeful communication technique in all interpersonal communication, we subconsciously outline why/ what/ when /who, and how as much as possible, wherever required.
 
The idea is to give clarity to get things done easier than leaving people with ambiguity, reducing the ability to get things done.
 
Experimenting with your next communication to check its effectiveness would be best.
 
 Have a great week ahead!

Displaying Respect by listening

 Displaying Respect by listening

(Execution Excellence -"Ability to get things done" Series)
 

We discussed some of the mindsets of highly influential people in the workplace to get things done. We mentioned win-win, how they look at work, and clarity of what they need.
Regarding practices, effective people work on themselves to build their credibility through relationships and expertise. The second practice is giving others their time, energy, and knowledge.
 
The next practice the people do is consistently displaying Respect by listening.

Relevance of listening and Respect:

One of the basic longing needs of all human beings is: Being heard.

Listening is beyond hearing the words. It is all about  GIVING ATTENTION to others and being willing to listen to others. Attention can be demonstrated to someone when they speak through our body language, like posture, eye contact, and acknowledgment.

When someone spends time actively hearing, it conveys Respect to others; in turn, the other is obliged to give it back.
Conveying Respect is not about expressing salutations like Mr/ Mrs or Sir / Madam; it represents positional hierarchy and will not influence people.

Beyond positional power, displaying Respect through listening will impact influencing.

Listening is a sign of Respect. It shows that you value what the speaker has to say. If you take the time to listen to someone by focusing on the speaker, you are showing them that they are important to you.
 
How do highly influencing people demonstrate in the workplace?
 
Create more forums for dialogue and feedback. 

They create forums to meet people and share information. That could be structured review forums or mail communication encouraging others to voice their views.

One of my bosses shares some of his learnings /outcomes after he attends some programs and encourage others to voice their opinion. By the way, he conveys that he respects others by sharing and allowing them to talk.
 
Moving around beyond hierarchy:
One of the habits of highly influencing people is they move around in the office and are keen on approaching people easily.
 
In all the above demonstrations, the essential quality they display to others is 
"I respect you as a human being"… when that message is imbibed to others, others will reciprocate when they are influenced to get things done.

Let us discuss some other practices next week.
 
Have a great week ahead.

Thursday 11 May 2023

Developing the art of Influencing

 Developing the art of Influencing 

(Execution Excellence -"Ability to get things done" Series)
 
As we discuss Enhancing Execution capabilities in the workplace, we have discussed the relevance of personal leadership for the last 25 weeks. 

The next part of getting things done is learning the art of influencing others. The others could be direct reportees, peers, colleagues, and clients.
 
What is meant by influencing?

Influencing is persuading someone to think or accept our ideas or act the way we want.

It is based on the relationship's quality and respect rather than power or positional status.

Everyone needs this ability when dealing with others at home or in the external world.

God has given us this ability the moment we are born. By crying, the child signals the need for food or care; the mother responds. That is one form of influence, and when we grow, we use different techniques to sell ourselves to others in every moment. However, in some cases, we achieve what we want; in others, we do not.

When our circle of connection enlarges, complexity increases, and we need to learn the art of influence, particularly in the workplace as a professional.
 
Why influencing skills is essential for professionals?
  • Commanding will no longer be effective in today's advancement in the information access environment. In the commanding era, people are looking for knowledge, but today Information or knowledge is available in plenty and quickly. What others want is wisdom or insights, or experience. By which only others are inspired with us. When the inspiration happens, it leads to ease of influence.
  • When growing up in a career, you need to get things done from people beyond your functional boundary, and they need not oblige to meet your expectation unless you inspire them. When you are not inspiring, you can not influence.
  • You might have seen many brilliant, hardworking, and sincere people stuck in their careers at some point in time. One of the reasons could be the lack of influencing skills despite their functional expertise.  
To become successful professionals, we must get things done and deliver results. From that perspective, learning the art of influencing is essential.

In this influencing Series, let us learn the following in the coming weeks

*Framework of influencing
*Human principles and using them to influence
*Proven laws of persuasion  and techniques
*Effective communication on improving influence

 
Have a great week ahead.
 

Thursday 17 November 2022

Expectation Management- Accountability Vs.Responsibility

 Expectation Management-

Accountability Vs.Responsibility
(Execution Excellence -"Ability to get things done" Series)

 
We have discussed the importance of being aware of key stakeholders' expectations related to expectation management. One way of being aware of the role expectation is getting clarity between accountability vs. responsibility.

In practice, we interchangeably use the term accountability and responsibility. There is a difference in the terminology, and how we use them to understand the expectation of our role in a professional setup will help us to deliver effectively.

Accountability refers to RESULT or end expectation, and responsibility refers to ACTIVITIES. In any professional dealing, others expect us to be accountable rather than responsible, even though it is not explicitly expressed.

How will this understanding help us?

When you relate your job with reference to more accountability than responsibility, it will enhance your understanding of expectations. You tend to improve your execution capabilities when you are clearer on expectations.

For example, assume you are the finance head of the organization. The key accountability expected from the position is to ensure positive cash flow, and all the activities are subsets of this accountability. When you know your ultimate accountability or result expectation, you will tend to do an effective job rather than when you relate your role only to activities like account keeping, generating statements, analysis etc. When you relate more to activities, likely suboptimal performance only will happen.

Similarly, if you are the procurement head, the key expectation is to ensure undisturbed material supply and cost optimization in material procurement. The other activities or responsibilities are a subset of accountability.

You may relate to your current role and articulate the highest expectation of the role.

When we are not aligned in expectations between key stakeholders and us, say, our boss or customer, disappointment occurs.

Some effective leaders, as i observed, will always relate their work and their team's work with an accountability perspective. When they have clarity, they will always communicate or connect with the team from a result delivery point of view and minimize the micromanagement on the activities level.

The clarity on accountability vs. responsibility is vague in many organizations, and it is the prime job of the managers/leaders to make clarity and practice when dealing with others.

This clarity on expectation setting helps to execute things well.

Have a great week ahead!

Expectation Management

  Expectation Management 

(Execution Excellence -"Ability to get things done" Series)
As we are discussing the relevance of self-management for enhancing execution capabilities, one aspect we discussed was time management for ourselves and others.

The next aspect is "Managing the Expectation."
 
Managing expectation is about being aware of what is expected from us in professional dealings and how we set expectations for others.

First, we need to be aware of what is expected to deliver for the role we assume
Second, we must be clear about the priorities sequence we need to follow.

Why is this CLARITY important?
 
When we do not have clarity on the expectation, it affects our execution capabilities and growth opportunities.
Most of the firefighting and chaos in the organization is due to a lack of clarity on the expectation between people or stakeholders.
 
It is not what you can do or deliver, but knowing and delivering the same as expected from you completes the execution cycle successfully. Otherwise, the efforts will be wasted only.

One incident happened to me with my client where i realized the importance of expectation management. At the beginning of my consulting career, a human resource head from a company called me and briefed the requirement for productivity improvements, as he understood from his business head.

Since this company is abroad, they organized flight travel and accommodation. I went, met a few people and spent a couple of days, and identified the opportunity areas for improvement. At the end of the day, i met the business head and was about to make a presentation and hurry to catch the flight. When i started presenting the potential areas where we could work on improvements, the business head began showing signs of confusion and irritation. He turned to the human resource head and started firing him up. He asked me to stop the presentation and explained he wanted to know the methodology of manpower assessment, not improvements at that point: completely different expectations and realities. The entire effort became a waste.

The business head, however, asked me to stay back, and i refused as i had some other work lined up. Then i  returned and sent a proposal as per his expectation, but it did not work out as the first impression was not appealing to both of us.

I realized in this incident that i must be clear enough about the expectation from key stakeholders as communication distorts from person to person. It is not how good you are or how you deliver; whether you deliver as expected or not matters in professional dealings.

Knowing the expectation is a must for delivering effectively, and our effort in getting the expectation right is essential.

However, regarding expectation management,  executives need clarity on accountability vs. responsibility which affects the execution capability. Let us discuss that next week.

Have a great week ahead.

Saturday 3 September 2022

Leadership patterns for a positive decision-making environment (contd..)



 
Last week we discussed some of the leadership patterns effective managers/ leaders display to create a positive environment for problem-solving and decision-making in the organization.
 

Some of the patterns listed as i observed from many outstanding managers/leaders. 
 
  • Clarity on the problem & delegation level
  • Communication & expectation setting on solving the problem
  • Switching between micro & macro management of detailing 
  • Space for risk-taking & learning attitude to deal with failure 
 
 Having discussed the three patterns, let us understand how leaders create space for risk-taking and failure. 
 
Space for risk-taking & learning attitude to deal with failure :
 
Some managers and leaders, as i  observed, insist people take new initiatives apart from routine activities even though any new initiatives have the probability of 50 % success.
 
My first manager in my career always engaged himself in new initiatives, and half of it turned into failure only. Despite he did experiments and also encouraged others to do something new. More than that, when the initiatives failed and cost the organization, he always defended the team's intent and effort than the results. Hence, he was among the outstanding managers regarded by peers, and people loved working with him.
 
Also, some leaders encourage the team to learn from the failure and perceive it as experience. My friend, an entrepreneur, always uses the phrase " it is part of learning" whenever his effort fails in any new initiatives, and he moves on to the next.

When the leader always insists on learning and encourages the people to experiment, the people would show interest in solving the problem and dare to make decisions without fear.
 

Nowadays, large-size organizations encourage innovation projects by rewarding people for daring to do new experiments. A classic example is the TATA Group's initiative promoting innovations through the "Tata Innovista " program. Through this program, teams are recognized and rewarded every year for success and failure in innovative projects. The Management believes in experimentation and risk-taking.

To sum up,
  • It is the leaders/managers who create a conducive environment through their behavior, communication, and process for the people to take the lead on the problem-solving and decision-making enhancement.
  • Creating such a conducive environment is what leadership is all about and expected from managers and leaders.
Let us analyze ourselves and become a better version of ourselves as managers/leaders in the organization.
 
Have a great week ahead.

Monday 27 June 2022

Redefining failure to overcome the fear of failure

 


 
On the subject of "fear of failure in selling our ideas or solutions to others" in a professional setup, last week, we discussed the reason for fear and its impact. We listed the following approach to overcome it.
  1. Redefine the failure
  2. Imposing Logical / reasoning over emotions
  3. Learning attitude
 Let us further understand each approach
 
Redefine the failure:
 
Smart people are using this approach to redefine their success or failure in any event when they have a fear of failure and progressing further.
 
For example,

let us consider the following situation.
 
Your organization has shortlisted you and other colleagues to elevate to the higher roles and assigned a challenging task that you have not done so far. To get finalized, you need to go through the assessment and interview. You have fear inside whether you will succeed in the new role. You have a dilemma to go for an interview or not.
 
In this situation, how you define your success or failure will help you to overcome the fear and progress to the next step.
 
Completing the new assignment will be a function of many factors like team dynamics and changes in external and internal business environments. Those factors may not be in your control. At this moment, you have control only over how you do in the assessment and interview process.

In this kind of situation, smart people redefine their success in such a way that "doing well in the interview is success" at the moment. Again in the next step, they redefine their success or failure in new assignments as how they perform well using the experience and giving their best. That mindset and focus on their performance will help them navigate the interview process well and to the next step.
 
This way of redefining will help to manage the fear factors.
  
You can relate this approach to M.S Dhoni's style of leadership. When captaincy came to him to lead the Indian cricket team, someone asked him whether he feared failure in the new role. He responded that "success or failure in a cricket match depends on how other players do their job; let me focus on what i can do best during the game." 
 
We do instill that mindset of defining success or failure in any event.
 
To sum up,
 
  • Effective people break up the event in multiple steps.
  • They focus on their performance/influence in each step and ignore the external force. 
  • That mindset of redefining the success or failure helps them manage the fear of failure.
 
Let us discuss other approaches next week.
 
Have a great week ahead.
 
 

How to sell ideas with EXECUTION clarity?

 


We have been discussing the emotional aspects that prevent us from selling our idea or solutions to others. Last week, we discussed one approach to overcome the fear of rejection by bringing the business sense to any solutions. The next approach to overcome the rejection possibility is to provide clarity on the execution.
 
When will other people say "NO" to your idea or solutions despite realizing the business value? Only when they are uncertain about the execution because it is natural for every human being to avoid complexity or risk aversion.

If the solutions seem to be complex, anyone tries to delay the decision-making process by citing many practical reasons.
 
For example, if someone offers you advice to improve your skillset to enhance your professional growth. What would be your reaction? Even though you are aware of the importance of skill development, if you are not sure about the area in which you need to improve your skillsets, the method of developing a skillset, and affordability, you will not take the advice seriously. The reason is the lack of clarity on the execution. That is normal human behavior.

Likewise, in professional dealing, others will accept your solutions or idea only when they are sure about the execution plan in simple terms.
 
For example,

i witnessed in one of the organizations that the business head wanted the team to improve the product rejections by 50 % in a year. Everyone understood the importance of the initiative; however, the business head was not comfortable spending money due to a lack of clarity on the execution by his second-level reportees.

With many iterations, one of the senior managers presented the different approaches or paths the team was going to adopt to improve the quality with a timeline for each approach, say through supply chain improvements, awareness creation to the team, inhouse process improvements, design improvements, educating the customers on handling the product and so on. In each approach, he presented with clear timeline and challenges in each step and mitigation plan. By sensing the clarity of the execution plan, the business head approved the solution and funded it for implementation. The organization achieved what it had planned in less than a year.

The key to getting the acceptance of your proposal is giving clarity to anyone on how we are going to execute it. The clarity could be on the approach you adopt or the phasing/timeline plan and the risk mitigation plan during execution.

The more you provide clarity on the path, the more likely, you will get the success in selling your approach to anyone.

Breaking the complexity into simple, multiple steps and sequencing is the key to bringing clarity. The art of bringing clarity can be learned with practice.

Have a great week ahead.

Selling solutions with a business sense.

 


 
As we discussed the emotional aspects that prevent us from selling our idea or solutions to others last week, let us discuss the practical approach to overcome the emotional derailers when selling the solutions to others.
 
Generally, two fears pull us down to sell our solutions to others with conviction.

1. Fear of rejection 
2. Fear of failure

Let us first discuss managing the fear of rejection, i.e., the fear in our minds about whether others will accept our solutions or not.
 
How do we overcome the fear of rejection? 

To answer this question, we need to understand the decision-making process of others to say YES or NO to our idea or solution.

Anyone will accept the solution only when they see benefits, either removing their pain or enhancing their pleasure. Generally, we always look for “what is in it for me? in every situation as human beings.

For example,

someone is offering a free webinar session on health and inviting you to attend. When will you accept to attend the session even though there is no commitment on money? When you see some benefits and a real need to learn something related to health, you agree to spare your time. That is nature in every decision-making.
 
If you understand this nature of emotions and decision-making, when you suggest an idea or solution in the professional environment, bring the  "business sense" to it.
 
Business sense means the solution should contain some VALUE for anyone to accept without much second thought.
 
At an individual level, the value could be eliminating or reducing the pain or increasing the pleasure, or revenue maximization or loss prevention from a business perspective.

i learned this insight from one of my managers some years back. We used to pack the materials in gunny bags, and a new trend was then catching up on using plastic containers. The same idea was discussed many times before, and considering the initial cost and risk of failure in a new idea, the proposal was rejected. During one of the management reviews, my manager presented to CEO  in a simple line stating what would be the overall cost of implementation, the overall cost-benefit, and the payback period. The way he projected the solution with cost vs. benefit, the management accepted the solution immediately.

For me, the key learning was that we need to sell our ideas with business sense either to any individual or any business professional.

In the absence of business sense, any idea or solution would be perceived with confusion and skepticism. There is a chance of rejection.

You may relate with your experience in selling ideas to others, and you may test it with a business sense approach next time.

Next week, let us discuss another approach to managing the fear of rejection by bringing clarity to the execution.
 
Have a great week ahead.

Selling your ideas or solutions to others.

 


As we have been discussing the structured approach for solving any chronic problems in the organizations, last week, we discussed the holistic vs. countermeasure solutions. The next important step is selling the solutions approach to others.
 
Whether we find a holistic or incremental solution, the solution will get value only when it is accepted and implemented by others.

As i observed with many managers/leaders, they find it challenging to sell their ideas or solutions to others and convince them. The others could be junior colleagues, peers, bosses, or even customers.

Why do we have the challenge of selling the idea to others?
 

Based on the data and analysis, we might have arrived at some solutions to any problem. However, we may not be sure whether the solutions will work or deliver results. There is always self-doubt within us.

Also, assumptions will vary over time in a complex environment and uncertain future. That leads to an internal dilemma and thinking about what would happen if our solution fails..? Fear of failure!

Also, we have apprehension about whether others will accept our solutions or not. As human beings, we tend to mix the acceptance of self with acceptance of solutions by others. Fear of rejection! 
 
The above reasons lead to personal / team challenges to sell the idea to others with conviction. The emotional aspect of fear of failure and rejection is quite normal, and everyone needs to go through it in our lives whenever we propose or suggest an idea or solution. That is a natural process.

We need to develop the skill of selling the solutions when we grow as managers and leaders.

Why do we need to develop the skill of selling ideas?

As managers or leaders, we are measured by delivering the result only, not on the data collection, analysis, and root cause finding capability. If we do not convince others of our solution approach and move towards implementation, we are halfway through problem-solving, which is almost equal to not solving the problem.

When we develop the skill of managing emotions through a logical approach, we evolve as successful problem solvers. Since every one of us will go through emotional aspects, the one who overcomes it will be perceived as the winner.
 
Next week, let us discuss the practical approach to overcome the emotional aspects of selling the solutions!
 
Have a great week ahead.

Friday 27 August 2021

Constructive dominance

 Constructive dominance 

(Emotional Management for Personal & Professional Growth Series)

Two approaches will work when we have a conflict with the direct reportees or junior colleagues. One is the compassionate approach wherein we take the parent-child relationship, create awareness / provide perspectives, make them understand our views, and finally make the things done.As discussed last week, this approach has some limitations. Another approach is constructive dominance approach .
 
As mentioned, in any differences, we are looking at relative power, relationship and goal.

In the constructive dominance approach, we use the power to get things done when the following situation arises.
  • Either prolonged conflicts affect the organizational goal or in situations where direct reportees or junior colleagues are hostile or unmotivated to comply with your reasonable demands.
  • The other person is clearly against you even after applying the compassionate approach.
  • You need to maintain the relationship to reach your or functional goal.
 
For example,

 look at the incidence in one of the client organizations. There were some quality issues in the product, and the quality head insisted on stopping the machines for conducting experiments. The production in charge was against the experiment as it would affect  his delivery performance.

This conflict was continuing for some time. Whenever the business head used to review quality performance, both functional heads pointed at each other and argued from their standpoint. The conversations turned into personal ego issues than organizational problems.

At some point in time, the business head intervened by making a mandate to fix the timeline and made both people accountable to solve the problem. The conflict was resolved.

Here the business head did not apply compassionate conflict management; instead, he used his power to dominate for solving the differences among the people. That approach is required when the direct reportees are unreasonable and beyond any explanation.

Sometimes, we need to use the power to dictate what we want to achieve when we think that giving reasoning/education will never change another person's behavior. That approach is expected from the person who manages the people.

The drawback in this approach is, sometimes, work will get done as we want, but there is no place for innovation or the free flow of thinking by anyone. You became the owner of the decision and the outcome.
Some people  may get offended as they perceive it as a win-lose deal

However, you must apply this approach when the goal is higher than interpersonal conflict, and you have both the power and responsibility for the result.
 
This approach will work when you have more power than others, but how to manage the conflict when the other person or party has equal power like you?

Let us discuss next week 

Saturday 17 July 2021

Are you criticizing performance or people?

 Are you criticizing performance or people? 

(Emotional Management for Personal & Professional Growth Series)

As we discuss the topic of "People Skill at the workplace," let us discuss some of the proven processes to apply when dealing with people.
 
One of the typical moments we come across in our day-to-day professional life is giving our opinion to someone on his/ her performance or task. In this process, our intention is most of the time to correct the behavior but unfortunately ended up with criticism. We may be harsh and straight in our views. The strange part is others may not realize the intention and likely perceive it as criticism.

The side effects of criticism would be resentment, defensive, argument, and getting hurt.

As leaders or managers, we always have a dilemma on our communication style, whether we are giving constructive feedback or blunt criticism.

When you observe effective people, they never hesitate to give feedback when they see a sub-standard performance, but they never make it as criticism. They are aware of the fact that any perceived criticism will not solve the problem. They use the simple technique of “Begin criticism with praise.”
 
For example,

Your team presents a proposal for a new initiative, and you find that it lacks data, analysis, and proper justification. Instead of scrapping the proposal by stating it as wasting of time, you can express, “Hi, the intent of new idea and thought process is good, but nowhere the proposal justifies the need for it. The proposal is substandard, and the team needs to work further on it.”
 
In the above example, you are criticizing the performance and not the individual. You begin with praising the people‘s ideas and attacking the substandard of the report or performance only. In this way of response, likely no one will get hurt, and also others would take the message from the right perspective.
 
The point is that we cannot avoid giving feedback in a professional environment. However, we need to ensure the feedback should not be taken as criticism, which hurts the people and sometimes leads to defensive and argument. One effective way of dealing with low performance is to begin your criticism with praise.

This process needs awareness of our communication style when dealing with people. Just try it next time.

Let us discuss some more aspects of criticizing next week.

Saturday 21 December 2019

Improving communication in the workplace-Summary

As we have been discussing for the last 20 weeks about improving communication in the workplace from an individual or personal effort perspective, now let us pause on this topic by summarising the key learnings.

Key learnings:
 

  • Effective communication is all about meeting the purpose of your intent with others. It is not about language proficiency.
  • As people are from different backgrounds in the workplace, each needs different levels of the communication process, and it is an individual 's responsibility to develop the skill rather than pointing others for poor communication results.
  • People will listen to you only when your communication contains ALL  the below elements.
  • Expertise in the subject or creditability proof 
  • Connecting emotionally with the person
  • Logically connecting with facts

  • You can connect emotionally with others by consistently displaying. 

Respect to others and feeling good with you
Listening  and undivided attention to others
Prompting others and fulfilling the need of “what is in it for me “
Your friendly  posture, tone, facial expression
Knowing the difference between criticism and feedback
Being approachable to others

 

  • In the workplace, we can not avoid conflict due to differences in the thought processes of each person. The only way to manage the conflict is through appropriate usage of assertiveness, proactive communication, and sometimes to ignore the battle for the interest of higher purpose.

  • Going forward, to manage the new generation, Influencing skill is mostly expected expertise in the workplace rather than the conventional way of commanding and directing. Influencing skills can be learned and developed with awareness and practice.

Developing communication skills is a lifetime learning process, and you need to invest in it to progress in the career path!
 

Friday 6 December 2019

Being approachable

Improving communication in the workplace

Being approachable
 
One of the factors to improve the effectiveness of communication is creating a favorable environment for conversation. The atmosphere is not the physical environment at an organizational level, but on the emotional aspects at a personal level. That psychological, environmental factor is “Being approachable.”
 

What is meant by being approachable?

Being approachable means how others are feeling when they want to reach out and communicate with you. The feeling could be memorable, friendly in nature, inspiring, relaxed, or fearful, disappointment, demotivated once they reach out to you.

Approachability is not confined only by physical proximity but at an emotional level. In most of the workplace, this is a concern, particularly in the relationship between superior and juniors and between colleagues.
 

It does not mean that you need to give less priority to your job and to offer yourself for others when others want to reach out to you. Even if you are busy with your work, you can demonstrate your approachability with a polite, assertive, and permissible way of communication.
 
For example, you might have observed and heard the following scenario in your workplace, especially with your senior members when you approach them, or you demonstrate to your colleagues or subordinates.
 
1. Not effectively listening with face to face, instead of doing something and listening to you
2. "Don’t tell me stories. Come to the point straight."
3. "Don’t tell me the problem, I want only solutions" (the person comes to you for solutions approach😪)
4. Not returning the phone calls and messages
5. Not responding to mail communication

 
Those are the behaviors that create a perception that the person is not easily approachable. All those behaviors distant you from others even though they are nearby physically.
 
When there is a barrier to “approachability,” eventually, the quality of communication suffers either by not sharing full information or not getting information on time.
 
Just be aware of behaviors that make you not being approachable .!

Monday 11 November 2019

Managing conflict with assertive communication

Improving communication in the workplace
Managing conflict with assertive communication
 
When conflict occurs in the workplace, you have a choice to manage thorough either passive or aggressive, and both have pros and cons. The third choice to manage conflict is assertive communication, which has only advantages.

This communication quality helps to improve the harmony and growth of the individual. However, it calls for managing your emotions during the conflict and a high level of patience and maturity. If one puts effort into learning this skill in life, I can say that it is the most precious asset one can have.
 
Assertive communication:

Assertive communication is all about how you are expressing your views by maintaining respect, showing empathy, or understanding other’s opinions from their perspective and also be firm in your views. In the end, both have to feel good and sense of achieving the purpose.

One instance I had witnessed some time back in one of the product development organization. The team put a lot of effort into developing a product and ready for launch in a few months down the line. The product manager was showing the proto to the managing director of the organization and explaining the features. The managing director suggested some modifications to improve the aesthetic.The team knew that the suggestion was good, but making any modification at the moment would delay the product launch. Since the advice came from the head of the organization, they could not resist.

The product manager had two choices in front of him; either he could passively accept the suggestion as direction, change the product, and delay the timeline. Another option he had was to refuse and argue aggressively. But he responded well by using assertive communication as follows

“I agree with your suggestion as this may improve product value further, and  I suggest to take it as a future product line extension and the implications to be worked out. Any change at this moment will delay the product launch timeline, cost. I think we should move forward now.”
 
The above assertive expression consists of respecting other’s opinions and acknowledging, not rubbing the ego with an argument, indicating the consequences and at the same time being firm on the stand considering the big picture of the organizational growth. That results in closure of the conflict and never resurfaced after that.
 
The point is most of the conflict happens either due to ignorance of information, a perspective difference of individual and the one who manages the conversation with an assertive way emerges as a leader. This calls for conscious development on self on assertive communication!