How do effective people manage their energy? Self-compassion

 How do effective people manage their energy?

 Self-compassion 
(Execution Excellence -"Ability to get things done" Series)

 

In continuation of last week's discussion on how effective people manage energy levels at the workplace so that they always display enthusiasm and balanced mental emotions to get things done, one more energy booster is self-compassion.

Self-compassion:

Self-compassion is being kind to ourselves whenever we fail, make mistakes or feel low.

For example, when some of our friends feel low due to a mistake, we tend to look at things from a distance and be kind to our friends. But, when we make mistakes, we are harsh ourselves and self-critics. That is due to a lack of self-compassion. When we do not understand ourselves and are kind enough, that moment drains our energy level further.

The ability to differentiate between our decision and self-worth improves our energy level. Some people are trained to be more self-compassionate despite failures or mistakes. They tend to bounce back from low energy levels quickly.

I have a friend who is a serial entrepreneur who has ventured into many businesses in the last 20 years, and unfortunately, many failed or shut down due to bad decisions. From a materialistic perspective, the world may perceive him as yet to be a successful entrepreneur, but what i have observed in him is a real example of self-compassion.

He always presents himself with professional attire and a smiley look and is highly energetic during any conversation. He is very active in the task throughout the day and always strives to be better in his profession. Not even a single instance he regretted his mistakes and self-critic himself.

He is clear in differentiating the wrong decisions and being a good person. That is the essence of self-compassion. He can differentiate his bad decisions/outcomes and himself as worthy. That is self-compassion. ( There is a thin line difference between being self-critical and self-realization of mistakes). i always look up to him whenever i feel low.
 
In professional life, we are bound to make many mistakes due to our decisions, thoughts, and actions. How we react when things go wrong affects our ability to differentiate ourselves and our decisions.

It is challenging to be self-compassionate as most of us choose to be harsh or blame others or the environment. It needs awareness and practice of looking at ourselves with kindness and differentiating from our mistakes.

Being self-compassionate helps to be at a high energy level, at least not at a low energy level.

Pl relate how much you are kind to yourself when you make mistakes..

Have a great week ahead.

Practicing Self Compassion

 Practicing Self Compassion

(Emotional Management for Personal & Professional Growth Series)

 

In continuation of last week's discussion on overcoming low-level emotions, There are two situations in which we feel low, one is for unknown reasons, and another is for the known cause.
 
Having discussed the method of dealing with low emotions for unknown reasons, let us understand the process of dealing with low emotions due to known causes.
 
Sometimes, we feel low due to disappointment, failure in a task despite the effort, rejection by others, etc.
 
For example, you prepared a proposal to get a new customer order, and despite your best efforts, you failed to win through. You may undergo the pain of losing the opportunity. Now, you feel low due to disappointment, your lack of negotiation skills, or any other factors. You have two choices to overcome the low-level emotion.

The first choice is getting into self-criticism for the failure, labeling you as unlucky, and get into self-pity. This choice pulls down your resilence power. The other choice for overcoming the low-level emotion is through self-compassion.
 
What is meant by self-compassion?

Self-compassion is about being kind of yourself when you are suffering from pain or low-level emotions.

We generally compassionate with others when they undergo suffering. We give them support by looking at the problem rationally and help them to overcome. But when we suffer, most of us are not self-compassionate. Instead, we get into self-criticism or self-pity mode, which aggravates the low-level emotions further.
 
How to practice self-compassion? 
 
First, accept the failure and the fact. Second, recognize your efforts and feel good about that. Also, realize that others are also going through similar pain in the world, and it is not something new that happened to you.

Once you practice self-compassion with kindness and neutral, you are overcoming the low-level emotions. You are in a position to look at the failure in an objective way to avoid mistakes in the future. You are inclined to learn from the mistake. This self-compassionate quality will help you to improve your resilience from failure quickly.
 
Practicing self-compassion during a tough time is essential for our well being and look at the problems from a different perspective. The practice of self-compassionate will come through self-awareness!.

Overcoming low-level emotions

 Overcoming low-level emotions  

(Emotional Management for Personal & Professional Growth Series)
 

 

One of the common problems most of us are experiencing in the workplace is getting into the mode of low-level feeling for an unknown reason and for the known reasons.

To get more clarity on the context, you come across the situations of feeing sudden sadness, feeling empty, not knowing what to do next despite a lot of activities are pending, doubting our capabilities despite many successes and achievements in our work. That is feeling low for no reason.

In another context, we may feel low due to the failure of our efforts, for example, failed to get the new order or customer, not able to convince the manager, not able to present our views with colleagues and stuck, etc. That is feeling low for specified reasons.

Both the context drains the emotions and not to be useful for personal and professional effectiveness. Each context calls for a different approach to deal with

How to deal when we feel low for no reason?

First, we need to be aware that at that moment we are feeling low and face it directly. We need to acknowledge and admit that being in sad emotions once in a while is normal for everyone.

But given the options of many distractions, we use to switch over to browsing, scanning through WhatsApp, social media, or getting into a conversation with others. The reality is after spending time with all the distractions, again we come to same state of feeling low. When this process repeats, eventually we turned out to be a victim of low-level emotions.

Hence instead of looking for a diversion, practice to deal with it and that makes you ease. Initially, we find it difficult to practice.

Once you give time for acknowledging and allowing the low-level emotions to settle down, it, quickly you may bounce back with new energy levels as i experienced many times.

But how to deal with the feeling of low for a specified reason? There only we need to practice more about self-compassion and let us learn next week!