Practicing Self Compassion

 Practicing Self Compassion

(Emotional Management for Personal & Professional Growth Series)

 

In continuation of last week's discussion on overcoming low-level emotions, There are two situations in which we feel low, one is for unknown reasons, and another is for the known cause.
 
Having discussed the method of dealing with low emotions for unknown reasons, let us understand the process of dealing with low emotions due to known causes.
 
Sometimes, we feel low due to disappointment, failure in a task despite the effort, rejection by others, etc.
 
For example, you prepared a proposal to get a new customer order, and despite your best efforts, you failed to win through. You may undergo the pain of losing the opportunity. Now, you feel low due to disappointment, your lack of negotiation skills, or any other factors. You have two choices to overcome the low-level emotion.

The first choice is getting into self-criticism for the failure, labeling you as unlucky, and get into self-pity. This choice pulls down your resilence power. The other choice for overcoming the low-level emotion is through self-compassion.
 
What is meant by self-compassion?

Self-compassion is about being kind of yourself when you are suffering from pain or low-level emotions.

We generally compassionate with others when they undergo suffering. We give them support by looking at the problem rationally and help them to overcome. But when we suffer, most of us are not self-compassionate. Instead, we get into self-criticism or self-pity mode, which aggravates the low-level emotions further.
 
How to practice self-compassion? 
 
First, accept the failure and the fact. Second, recognize your efforts and feel good about that. Also, realize that others are also going through similar pain in the world, and it is not something new that happened to you.

Once you practice self-compassion with kindness and neutral, you are overcoming the low-level emotions. You are in a position to look at the failure in an objective way to avoid mistakes in the future. You are inclined to learn from the mistake. This self-compassionate quality will help you to improve your resilience from failure quickly.
 
Practicing self-compassion during a tough time is essential for our well being and look at the problems from a different perspective. The practice of self-compassionate will come through self-awareness!.