"The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure."-John C Maxwell
Everyone has success and failure experiences in life.What makes the difference between average and successful people is the interpretation or learning from such success and failure experiences.The way we are looking at our experiences and taking further action only determines the growth.
For example, your boss is criticizing your attitude towards work and giving some feedbacks. Now you have three choices to respond to the criticism or experience.
Choice of response 1:
Feeling guilty and becoming sad about the feedback. The consequence may be your self esteem may go down and you may be cribbing about the feedback.Self pity will be increasing and no corrective or forward thinking will take place
Choice of response 2:
Start defending your position with justification to your boss.Probably you may win the argument, but may lose the sight of the truth in his feedback. You tend to build logics to justify your stand and in this process, you decline to look at the truth. No learning takes place to improve further.
Choice of response 3:
Listen and seek further clarity. Do introspect. This may lead you to find more truth about yourself. In this process, your mind tends to analyze the fact and accept the need for corrective action for growth.
The choice that you are choosing to any experiences either good or bad determines the further growth or evolution.Hence, Be aware of responding to any experience and you attract good things in life!