Being generous-an attitude towards happiness

“Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you will not have to hunt for happiness.”--William Gladstone

          One of the way of being happy is to be always in generous mindset. By definition, generous can be understood as “freely giving or sharing money, time, knowledge or any valuable resources of yours to others”.

          Being in generous mindset brings not only happiness to self; it improves the quality of relationship with others and to the world. In today’s liberalized economy, most of us are leading a better life than our parents, even then, the mind is filled with POVERTY mentality only. Due to this mindset, life is looked upon with  insecure and fearful. In a family, the split happens between blood relationship over family assets  is mainly due to lack of abundance mentality or lack of generous attitude.

          But by nature, more you give yourself to others, you get more energy  or resources to take care of yourself. With  generous attitude, life will be perceived as opportunities. When does  one behave as  generous? Only when he feels  that he has sufficient  enough  to give it others or  when feels that he has the capability to acquire more when required. This abundance feeling brings generous attitude.

          You can experiment this yourself. For example, if you use to give  Rs x  as tips to waiter  at restaurants, next time you experiment  by giving Rs 2X;  experience the feeling you are undergoing  and look the reality of wealth erosion fear. Similarly  experiment  by spending  2X time with your family members than usual; experience the feeling you are undergoing and look the reality of work productivity fear.

          Be generous in giving your resources to others and you will attract good things in life!

Chinese Bamboo Tree

“Patience, persistence and perspiration make an unbeatable combination for success.”-Napoleon Hill 

        Have you heard about the Chinese bamboo tree ?. This is different from other trees  as it does not grow in the usual fashion.. While most of the trees start growing steadily over a period of time, this Chinese bamboo tree does not even  break through the ground for the first four years.. Then on the fifth year, this tree starts to grow at an amazing growth rate.. It is said that within four to five weeks time, it even grows to 90 feet height. Actually, during the first four years, growth is not visible externally, but the tree has internally grown and making the roots strong.

       This nature’s creation reflects about our life. Sometimes, our life works   this way. You may be  working  hard  for your business growth  or professional growth or improving a relationship  for  weeks, months or even years and you may not even see  much significant progress. All of a sudden, you realize a significant transformation or growth in your business results and quality of relationship.Here the key point  is your patience to go through the process or faith on the positive outcome or perseverance  in your effort makes you realize the result.

       Any new initiative or effort  in business or even people development or relationship building takes time.. All it requires patience and faith in the outcome..

      Be patience in all your endeavors, keep making your effort and  you attract the good things in life!!

Your most valuable Gift to Your Child – Develop Self Esteem

         “If you don't see yourself as a winner, then you cannot perform as a winner.”- Zig Ziglar

           As a parent, most of us dedicate our lives to creating wealth, providing education and comfort life of our Child. Those are all important, but the most valuable gift is to ensure our child is brought up with high self esteem till he becomes an adult. The adult who is brought up with high self esteem will achieve big success in life and happy compared to an adult with Low self esteem. Because self esteem helps to foster better relationship with others when the child becomes an adult.

         Even though education, friends, teachers are influencing the child‘s self esteem, as a parent, we can do our part to inculcate self esteem  by following simple  practices  on day to day interactions.

Do not criticize for failures:

              Failure is also part of life. When a child fails  in any action, let  us not criticize the mistake instead appreciate the effort.

Appreciate good behaviors 

            Frequently let us remind their’s good qualities and appreciate.It will reinforce confidence level.

Do not compare with others 

            Let us never compare our child against their friends. It will suppress natural talent.

Involve in decision making 

           For small domestic related issues, ask their opinion. It will make them feel important.

Make responsible for small tasks 

           Let us give them small tasks at home and ensure they are completed. It makes them feel responsible.

           Let us bring up our next generation with high self esteem and they will do wonders in life!

It is time for reflection

“Dates that come around every year help us measure progress in our lives. One annual event, New Year's Day, is a time of reflection and resolution.”—Joseph Wirthlin

                As you are aware that personal growth begins within through self-awareness and realization.This awareness and realization happen through various forms  like reading books, observing others, discourses, learning  from others  etc..But the most effective way of becoming  aware of self is through reflection of self.

           Self-reflection will bring enormous awareness of about yourselves.The more you do self introspection, better you are aware of yourself.But, in reality, it is very difficult for most of  us  to spend time for doing self-analysis. For those people, one of the right  time  is this new year beginning as it psychologically provides refresh mindset.

           This is the time, you can spend time for yourselves, think about the last year progress on family relationship, business growth, health, financial aspects and personal spiritual growth aspects etc. It is time to reflect what went right and what could have been done better, what can be done in the new year  on all aspects of life..

          The reflection of self will bring enormous insight about yourself and you attract good things in life…

Revenue conscious or Expense conscious?

“The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.”—Brain Tracy

     Who does not like to be rich in his lifetime? Every one wishes.But it  depends on the focus and right action personal finance management. The focus is required on both revenue as well as expense management for long-term wealth creation. Most of us are giving more focus on expense control than revenue maximization. Let us understand the implications of both.

   

Revenue maximization:

     When  you are more conscious about revenue maximization, the focus would be on generating  more revenue  through business expansion or professional development, etc.. Consequently, the action  and energy would be  on skill development, making yourself competent, looking, for, saving and investment opportunities, etc. In this approach, there is no limit to maximize your  revenue generation possibilities.

Expense control:

     When  you are more  conscious  about expense control, your focus would be  always on reducing the expenses, looking  for cheaper alternatives etc..Your energy  and action would be  cutting down the expenses even if looks required for long term benefits, for example, investing in yourself for future growth etc..But the fact is that beyond a certain point, you cannot control  your expenses as this  seems to be essential.

     The point is  not to be conscious  about expense control, but too much of consciousness  may  not make you  rich, instead  have consciousness  on revenue maximization and moderate control of  expenses may help you  accumulate wealth.Be aware about your control on  wealth creation process and you attract good things in life!

Fast and slow decision making

“Human decision-making is complex. Our tendency to yield to short-term temptations  and even to addictions, may be too strong for our rational, long-term planning.”--Peter Singer

          Analysis of several successful people reveals that their decision-making ability contributes significantly to the success. In addition, it reveals a notable habit on their decision making process. They are FAST on making decisions and SLOW in changing the decision once taken.

  

          For example, Henry Ford demonstrated this habit in his decision making process. This habit only made him  to manufacture his famous Model T car for nineteen years  with only in black colour.When many of his advisors urged him to change the colour, he was firm in his decision to change till change became necessary .This firmness on his decision yielded him a huge fortune.

  

         Most of us have hesitated to take a firm decision in business or in family issues.Even if we take a decision, if  critique comes from many directions   or there are struggles, the immediate tendency will be to give up the decision.That is the moment, we move away from the fortune.

         Even though the decision making  ability  depends  on so many parameters like individual risk appetite, background, knowledge and the circumstances, the awareness  of  being  FAST on taking the decision  and SLOW on changing it will help to improve the quality of life. Reflect on your decision-making habit and you attract good things in life!

Mindset for career growth

“A weed is a plant that has mastered every survival skill except for learning how to grow in rows.”--Doug Larson

       As you might  have observed that  some people are progressing fast in their career path and some people are not progressing enough despite their  potential.Even though there  may be many  external factors contribute to  the growth, the choice of mindset  and personal qualities exhibited by the individual contributes significantly. The individual either  possesses  a growth mindset or survival mindset and accordingly  demonstrates  the behavior in a professional environment.

Let us understand the two categories of people  and qualities

Growth Mindset  and qualities:

• They  always  eager to learn something new 
• They accept the challenges and  do the mental risk calculation
• Always look for the opportunity  to contribute during interaction, crisis moment and do their best
• Generally they do not bother much about  their defined target set by  others and go beyond
• Their  thinking and solution approach is  always one step ahead of current titles 

Survival  Mindset and qualities:

• They do what is given or asked to do
• When opportunities given, they have always found the reason why can not be done
• Being in the same environment, they are always complaining  others
• They always depend on  someone or forum to take a decision
• They refer to the rules and processes frequently  

  

Being in survival mindset is not a big issue if it is a conscious choice of the individual.However  the awareness of the above mindset will help you to change yourself into growth mindset and  you attract good things in life!