Overcoming Envy
(Emotional Management for Personal & Professional Growth Series)
Having discussed the causes of envy and its effect on our workplace productivity, let us discuss the approaches to deal with jealousy as an emotion.
As mentioned, there is a thin line difference when we look at others for comparison or inspiration and get envy. The consciousness is always required not to get into the envy trap. I am sharing below some of the approaches as i experienced.
Envy comes in when we have a thinking that others have something which we do not have. It is an outcome of a scarcity mindset. To counter that thinking, we need to count our blessings and the positive things we have in our lives.
For example, you may observe a colleague who has extraordinary social skills, which you may lack. Eventually, you will compare yourself and feel envy about it. To counter that, you think of your blessing, say you may be having extraordinarily analytical and problem-solving skills which others may be lacking. That is a blessing or gift you got. Think about what you have, and feel grateful for that. When we count your blessings, we become less envious of others.
Just think and recognize what you got in this life in terms of skills, personal qualities, people you surround with, exposure, and opportunities you got. Most of the time, we take things for granted, and in reality, most of the privileges we got in life are not readily available to others.
The more you think of your blessings and make it part of your personality; eventually, the less you affect by other's possession or success.
Just list down your blessings and make it a habit.
When we have not associated ourselves with the blessings, any comparison of us with others results in envy as it emerges from scarcity.
Let us discuss other approaches next week.
As mentioned, there is a thin line difference when we look at others for comparison or inspiration and get envy. The consciousness is always required not to get into the envy trap. I am sharing below some of the approaches as i experienced.
- Counting your blessings
- Setting your standard and comparing yourself.
- Learn the nature of creation
- Appreciating the goodness frequently
Counting your blessings always:
For example, you may observe a colleague who has extraordinary social skills, which you may lack. Eventually, you will compare yourself and feel envy about it. To counter that, you think of your blessing, say you may be having extraordinarily analytical and problem-solving skills which others may be lacking. That is a blessing or gift you got. Think about what you have, and feel grateful for that. When we count your blessings, we become less envious of others.
Just think and recognize what you got in this life in terms of skills, personal qualities, people you surround with, exposure, and opportunities you got. Most of the time, we take things for granted, and in reality, most of the privileges we got in life are not readily available to others.
The more you think of your blessings and make it part of your personality; eventually, the less you affect by other's possession or success.
Just list down your blessings and make it a habit.
When we have not associated ourselves with the blessings, any comparison of us with others results in envy as it emerges from scarcity.
Let us discuss other approaches next week.
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