Habits will determine your success

"We are what we repeatedly do.Excellence is not an act,but a habit."--Aristotle

         The habit can be defined as something you do regularly and often, which eventually becomes easy. For example, viewing television while taking food is a habit, attending meeting on time is a habit and for the successful people winning in every obstacle is a habit.

          Now let us understand the quality of habit and its impact on the probability of success or growth. For example, you want to have control of your financial security. If that is your goal, it demands some of the good habits like checking your expenses frequently, saving some percentage of your earnings, frequently looking at your investment portfolio for better returns etc. Those  habits  only lead  you  to financial freedom over a period of time.Similarly, you should not have bad habits like  buying all new gadgets, whether you really need it or not, investing in low productive assets  etc.  With reference to personal finance. Hence, the combination of good and bad habits related to personal finance only will determine your financial security.

          Similarly, each aspect of life like career advancement, business growth, and relationship require a set of good habits to be followed regularly and at the same time avoiding the bad habits. The choosing of good habits and consistently following only leads to achievement of success in any given area.

          Now re look at your habit pattern in any aspects and you attract good things in life!

Be aware of your emotions for positive results

"The sign of an intelligent people is their ability to control their emotions by the application of reason."--Marya Mannes

             As human beings, we are filled up with emotions.Every second, we are  experiencing  a different set of emotions  and those emotions  drive our  actions.The emotions can be positive emotions like happiness, energy, enthusiasm, etc. or can be limiting emotions like anger, sadness, worry, laziness etc.

            When we are in a positive state, our words, tone and actions will be positive whereas in limiting state, our actions leads into more chaos or unproductive. So be aware of in which state you are in at any point of time and change your state before taking any actions or communicating to others.

           One of the ways to change state instantly is by changing our physiology or body language. For example, imagine that you are in deep thinking or in a sad mood  and you are getting a phone call from your dearest friend.How quickly you are changing your state  into happiness? That moment you are changing your state just by changing your physiology.It is possible to change the state instantly with little focus on awareness and practice.

          The point is when you are taking any important decision or even talking to someone, aware of your state and change in a positive state. The result also will be positive. Hence, action is to observe the feelings that you are experiencing in each moment and change into a positive state.You will attract Good things in your Life.

Improve relationship by changing your perception

“People see what they want to see and what people want to see never has anything to do with the truth.” -- Roberto Bolano

            Most of us are struggling for maintaining good relationship with family members, colleagues, subordinates and with bosses in work environment. One of the reasons could be the perception we have formed about others and approaching them with the same perception forever.But the reality may be opposite to the perception.

            For example, we might have experienced a few irritable incidences with the boss and we have framed the perception that the boss is always “short tempered.” With the same frame of mind, we approach and response to him, but in reality, we may miss his other good qualities such as his grasping ability, communication skill, caring about people, business acumen etc..In this process, our relationship quality is strained.

             Similarly, we may approach our children  as “Average” based on their  academic performance, but we may miss to notice their other qualities such as memory, power, mingling with others, taking things easy  and so on.The point is if we frame some perception about people and approach, our quality of  relationship will be to the extent of perception. If we are a little bit flexible and start looking other qualities, the relationship quality may improve.

             Practicing this in real life seems to be difficult, but possible with awareness .Accept the people as such, approach them with flexible mind; you attract good things in life!

Improve confidence with small actions….

"You gain strength,courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.You are able to say to yourself," i lived through this horrot.i can take the next thing that comes along."--Eleanor Roosevelt

          One of the survey  concludes that 85 % of the population suffers with low confidence issue. Improving the self-confidence is vital for growth and it cannot be improved  just overnight.It can be improved only by experiential  learning and  inculcating  positive reinforcement in the subconscious mind  with  more small success.

          For example, if you want to improve your confidence on public speaking skills, you cannot immediately  do  it in a large  crowd.Instead, you consciously experiment in a small group, take action  and taste the success. Your subconscious mind registers the successful event. Next time, when you are speaking  in  larger groups, your mind pushes you  with positive reinforcement  of earlier success and you may do well.Again the mind registers  this event  as  positive reinforcement. This way only, you can improve your confidence in public speaking.

          Similarly, if you want to take your business   to the next level, experiment with small, incremental target, be focused, take action, achieve it… this positive reinforcement  will help you to perform better in a high-level target achievement.

          Improving self confidence  is self driven, slow process, but more powerful forever. Hence the action plan is to identify the area in which you have low confidence level , take small action , taste the success  and this small success will help you to attract good things in life ! .

What you believe,it will become reality

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't--you're right.” --  Henry Ford

             What do you think the prime reason for you to learn to drive two-wheeler or car? You may answer that need, desire, affordability, support, skills, etc., But the prime reason for the achievement is that you believed that you could drive. That belief only brought all other  resources to make it happened.

                 Let us refer  any historical events, business, sports, political  success  or even our life events, we  may realize that  underlying reason  for the success  is that  someone believed that it could. For example, Mahatma Gandhi strongly believed that through Ahimsa, he would bring freedom even though he did not have strengths and resources at an early stage. Eventually momentum gained and the rest is history.The reason is that he strongly believed he could.

                 It is said that anything happens twice, once in our mind and then in reality. If you strongly believe that you can turn around your business, it will.If you strongly believe that you can be extraordinary performer in your job, you will. If you strongly believe you can be a role model to your child or to your team, you will. Everything begins with your mindset or belief. When mindset expands, new possibilities open up.

                  Relook your beliefs about your quality of performance, quality of relationship, quality of leadership and expand your mindset, you are very close to the new possibilities .Challenge your mindset and you attract good things in life!

Your self image determines the quality of life

"If you don't see yourself as a winner,then you can not perform as a winner."--Zig Ziglar

                                    

             One of the most fundamental  step  for improving quality of life is  to enhance  your self esteem or self-image .Self esteem is nothing but what you think and feel about yourself. This inner thinking and feeling is very much important, as this will reflect externally as your words, behavior, and action.

         For example, if you think and feel internally as leader or capable of doing anything , your behavior and action are also in line with  that feeling .Alternatively, if you think and feel yourself as average performer or lazy , your action and behavior also reflect the same .

         One of the survey reveals that 85 % of the world population suffer with low self esteem.The consequence of low self esteem affects the relationship, communication, performance at work, parenting quality, living up to potential .So quality of life depends on the quality of self-image.

         Hence aware of your self-image, relook and you will attract Good things in Life!

How are you being measured in the workplace?

     “Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you is great work."-Steve Jobs

       Have you ever wondered that some people have great career growth and some people are stuck? The answer lies in understanding the psychological assessment of your work with your boss and colleagues in the workplace. You are being measured in two aspects viz what you are doing? And how are you doing? In other words, people are assessing you on the  Quality of RESULT and RELATIONSHIP.

       Irrespective of your level or position in your career path, your performance matters, and your behavior to deliver the performance is also important. Even if you are extremely good either in performance or behavior, you may not get the deserved growth in the long term. Your growth requires both.

       Now, look at your career growth, are you balancing performance and behavior? If not enhance your performance and relationship skill, you will attract good things in life!